Do you find yourself wondering why your relationship seems to be such hard work or why perhaps the long-term romance is lost? Maybe you can't even remember the first romantic gestures or emotion of the early times with your lover? Sometimes, you can be so immersed in the intricacies of your love that you can easily miss the signs of a toxic bond. Similarly, your zodiac sign can greatly influence your behavior and tolerance in a love relationship. Astrology can help explain the emotionally charged feelings within a relationship and our love life in general.
ARIES (Aries dates: March 20 - April 19)
Always ready to do what it takes to succeed, Aries, you know you’re in a toxic relationship when you find yourself doing far too much hard work to make your partner happy. Your zodiac sign hates to lose – at anything – so knowing when to admit defeat in a toxic love affair can be difficult for you, but if you find you’ve lost sight of yourself and your own needs, then it’s time to call it quits. Aries has a tendency to easily become unbalanced that can allow a lover to take advantage, and when you realize this, it will shake you to your core. You most likely will simply shut out the offending partner until it’s too late to salvage the relationship.
TAURUS (Taurus dates: April 20 - May 20)
When you’re dissatisfied in a relationship, Taurus, it brings out the gloomy and malicious side of your personality. You’re especially put off by self-centerdness in a lover, and you’ll immediately shut your partner out if this occurs. Your zodiac sign's overly cautious nature makes you particularly fearful of commitment which can cause your partner to become suspicious of your intentions. When you’re in a vicious cycle of negativity, you may become short-tempered and possessive. As your focus is on outward appearances; however, you’ll still put on a show of being “happy” but, ultimately, Taurus, once it’s over in your heart, there’s not much your partner can do to change your mind.
GEMINI (Gemini dates: May 21 - June 20)
Your disproportionate desire to be constantly thrilled by life, Gemini, can lead to unwarranted dissatisfaction in your relationship. You are so easily bored and will blame your partner if things become dull. Even when you are completely committed to your sweetheart you enjoy a good flirt session, but when you are dissatisfied, you amplify the flirting to another level, which will quickly send your relationship into a dysfunctional downward spiral, especially if your lover is overly jealous. Gemini, your zodiac sign loves to verbally share with the one you love, so if you stop communicating, it’s a good sign that things are going downhill.
CANCER (Cancer dates: June 21 - July 21)
Cancer, your natural desire is to protect yourself. When your zodiac sign doesn’t feel safe within a relationship you are immediately on the defense, bringing out a side of you that is a little petty and insecure. You will lose interest if you feel your partner is no longer caring for you and meeting your needs, romantic or otherwise. Your conflict style is passive aggressive rather than confrontational, so you will most likely avoid addressing the real issues, unless you’re forced to. You loathe shallow connections; therefore, you should leave a relationship that you consider superficial in search of a deep and soulful love.
LEO (Leo dates: July 22 - August 22)
The flip side of your bold and loving lionesque qualities is an aggressive and dismissive Leo; beware any lover who disappoints you, you are quick to lash out when you feel slighted. Also, if you’re feeling that your beloved is not giving you the ample attention and praise you deserve, you will quickly become frustrated. Your zodiac sign is not good at hiding your true feelings, so if you’re jealous or unhappy your partner and other people will definitely know about it. You love a chance to shine, so a sure sign that all is not well is if you start wanting to stay at home rather than splash your love around town.
VIRGO (Virgo dates: August 23 - September 22)
Being your naturally hyper-critical self towards your lover, Virgo, is in fact a sign of how deep your love flows. You are hardest on those you love the most. If your nit-picking nature gets too much, however, it will push all but the most devoted lovers over the edge. An unhappy Virgo with an unchecked inner critic can quickly send a relationship to its ruin. You value stability and routine more than most other signs so, if things get too busy, or there are too many issues in your relationship, you become easily overwhelmed. You use distraction to deal with discontent. Once you reach this stage, nothing your partner does will please you.
LIBRA (Libra dates: September 23 - October 22)
Libra, even though you have a tendency to become a workaholic when you feel unhinged, you are often not prepared to put that kind of work into your love relationship. You tend to throw in the towel when things get difficult and can be too quick to move on. As a lover of all things bright and beautiful, you can find it almost impossible to face the ugly side of a love affair. You struggle, Libra, to accept that your love is not perfect, and you will turn your focus to something, or someone, else when you’re not happy with your beloved.
SCORPIO (Scorpio dates: October 23 - November 21)
Scorpio, you insist on absolute honesty in your relationship but often are not prepared to give it back. You regularly hide your own true feelings; however, if there’s not equal give and take, then it’s time to call it quits. If you find yourself getting very emotional and exploding about the small things too often, it’s a good sign your relationship is not a healthy one. Luckily, your passionate nature won’t let you rest and remain with a lover who doesn’t make you happy. If the trust has been broken, there’s not much you can do to salvage it – you’re not one to forgive and forget.
SAGITTARIUS (Sagittarius dates: November 22 - December 20)
Sagittarius, a good sign that you’re in a toxic relationship is when your usually sunny self becomes negative and overly serious. You’re a fundamentally positive person, so when faced with a discouraging lover or situation, it completely throws you off course. Your Sun sign has a tendency to express your anger inappropriately, which can confuse your beloved and impact negatively on your relationship. Until you find the right person, your need for freedom may be a stronger force than your need to bond with another, which can be painful for your partner. A toxic relationship will completely dull your sparkle, Sagittarius.
CAPRICORN (Capricorn dates: December 21 - January 19)
Capricorn, your high expectations, morals and sense of responsibility towards others means you simply don’t tolerate laziness in a person, or a relationship. You are quite repulsed by apathy of all kinds. You also don’t welcome a partner who’s impulsive or reckless, especially with your heart. If you find yourself becoming cold and uncommunicative towards your lover, then you should know that deep down you are not in a healthy relationship, nor are you happy. This dissatisfaction will bring out your overly controlling side and, Capricorn, being the fixer that you are, you will start trying too hard to make things right.
AQUARIUS (Aquarius dates: January 20 - February 17)
The first sign of an Aquarius who is miserable in love is avoidance. If you’re displeased in your romantic relationship, you will slowly start to have less and less time for your beloved. It’s your way of phasing the person out. You naturally prefer to be free of obligations and restrictions on your life, but in a toxic relationship, this becomes heightened. In fact, your greatest cause of unhappiness, Aquarius, is being controlled. You clash with rigid, overly practical personalities, and you will find yourself becoming introverted and withdrawn if you’re in a toxic match.
PISCES (Pisces dates: February 18 - March 19)
Pisces, you’re the astrological sign of the zodiac who wears the rose-colored glasses and has the most instinctive tendency to give out far more than you receive. In an unequal love match, a lover will take advantage of this and completely drain you. You’re also an unhealthy communicator, which means rather than address the issues you have with your sweetheart, you’ll avoid conflict at all costs – even though when your feelings are not considered, it hurts your heart most profoundly. When you’ve completely checked out from your partner and disengaged from all romance, emotion and intimacy, you’ll have a sudden desire to be free, and that’s a sure sign it’s over.